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We discussed “belief” in our first video. Not sentimental belief, but a deep founded realisation that long journeys can be achieved, but they need a persistence and determination on the person wanting to achieve it.
Long journeys have this unique thing about them, which I share with my clients and continue to share with them throughout the journey. Firstly the responsibility for you lies with you. It is useful to identify that at some point your long journey to a point of high BMI began. You didn’t notice it, but you have been aware of your journey for some time. You have done a few things about this Body Mass Increase but have not really understood how to steer the ship (you) to the horizon you seek. But you have let it go along, trying out different things, but unable to figure out what has and hasn’t worked and therefore unable to make headway.
If I were sailing a boat, and set the sail one way for it to take me in one direction and then changed the sail and it took me in another direction, it would take me an incredibly long time for me to figure out how I could get to my destination. The variants in wind direction and velocity would be constantly changing. Some of the journey I may get right (by chance) and some wrong (equally by chance), and I simply wouldn’t know what was what, so would probably give up. What I really need, of course, is a captain who knows how to sail boats.
Now if the Captain shares the right knowledge with me, I can believe I can get to the right horizon simply by following his instruction, even if technically I don’t know or understand the “maths” behind it, I do feel my chances are improved. So my second important point here is to say this, always learn from somebody who has achieved the exact thing you want to achieve. It saves you an incredible amount of time.
Now, lets re look at this horizon…..it’s a long way off…….so do we expect to just sail straight at it in one continuous line? The point is this, even if we could draw a straight line between ourselves now and the horizon point we envisage for ourselves, and then just follow the instructions given to us verbatim, with no surprises, then wouldn’t the journey seem a bit pre-ordained and therefore boring? We would set off with good intention, but if the journey is too smooth we would get bored. In a way the real problem with long journeys is managing your expectations in relation to being human. The only way to endure a long journey is to have life keep coming at you with problems for you to solve and learn from, punctuated by stretches of boredom for you to effectively reflect and gain momentum in. In other words, problems and boredom go hand in hand.
More importantly though is that they go hand in hand WHATEVER JOURNEY you choose to go on. So if you decide not to change you will still experience boredom and problems, and if you do make changes you will have problems and boredom. The unique difference between the two is that on one journey you may learn something, get slimmer and one day be able to help another person in your position and the other way you won’t. Choice put to us like this really becomes a easier decision and takes away the fear of failure. It almost makes the failing parts of the journey the exciting parts as that’s where you learn the most. It could almost be viewed that the boring bits are where we are probably succeeding. So another connection to make is that failing and succeeding go hand in hand and essentially are THE JOURNEY.
Is to fear failure a reason to not start? It is a reason a lot of people get put off. They look at the horizon, they look at the rigging and they measure it up rationally and think “not bloody likely”. That’s precisely how I used to feel before I got Satellite Navigation in my car. How on earth will I get there? Can my attention hold and be sustained for that period of time, can all those roads mean anything? Which way is North?
What does a Sat Nav do? It breaks down the journey. It gives you a simple instruction and before you know it you have gone from nervous driver to a competent person dodging speed cameras. My point is you need to trust in you ability to learn as you go, and not to take on too much at one time. Enthusiasm is an emotion which quickly runs out leaving disappointment in its wake, I ask you to just think what the goal is in your mind and then think, ok, how shall I break this down and then, how shall we organise the first few steps? As you begin, each step is one learned which you wont have to repeat again. It becomes part of your bank of knowledge. It is enough knowledge to keep you interested but not overwhelmed, let you deal with the problem, handle it, resolve it and feel good about each accomplishment.
Lucy Case
Fitness Director ThinQ Fitness
Director of The Body Fitness Company
Specialising in Bridal Fitness and High BMI
