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Listening is an art. We are used to listening to music, hearing rhythms and interpreting sounds quite vividly through this form of expression. But, what about our voices? Our range of intonation in our voices, our emphasis on words, our “real meaning”? We have all caught ourselves trying to force out a nice voice when actually we are frustrated, or been aware of the tense sound emitting from our voice boxes when trying to appear calm but speaking through gritted teeth.
We all have out expressions and some are simply habitual. One friend I knew had got used to talking and every now and then popping his tongue into her cheek and pushing the cheek wall out. I don’t mind but this habit can be “read” as a sign that you are a bit “cheeky”, a bit of a likely lad.
If when answering the phone one always says “yyyeeeessss?” in a tired way, then the caller may perceive this that you are in a bad mood, when in fact, this is habitual answer.
We all need to be aware of our own habits through voice and expression and also start tuning into the habits and expressions of others.
It is worth thinking through whether our initial perceptions hold value, as we can access a person intuitively very quickly and almost unfairly by not really familiarizing ourselves with their quirks and fau pas. Remember, the things which annoy us may becoming endearing traits in the future and vice versa, also that intuitive reaction to a non verbal gesture may give you the clue you need to access a persons trust worthiness or intention. Its subtle stuff, trust your instincts, listen up!!!
